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Pole dancing for fitness is weird
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This won’t be eloquently written out because I don’t really have a specific reason to feel this way.
Strippers I have no issue with, do your thing. It’s weird when you find out your insurance lady pole dances for fitness though. I get that it’s honestly probably pretty close to gymnastics (in my uneducated brain) but the stigma around it makes it weird. This was worded wrong idc about the stigma I think its just weird.
Edit: I also think wrestling is weird
Edit 2: I’m not against people doing whatever they want, I could care less actually as long as it’s not inflicting harm on other people like murder or something. I am into cars and planes and basically anything with an engine and I know people think that’s weird.
Edit 3: Strikethrough
Edit 4: I don’t care to hear about your lady friends being advised not to do something because people might oogle. They should be allowed to do whatever. Teach people to not objectify.
Also I think it’s weird, not bad.
Top Comment: I used to do it, it's a lot of fun and if you look at the professionals (not dancers but those who do it for sport) they are absolutely ripped. It takes a lot of strength to do the techniques properly, it's a full body workout.
Is pole dance a turn off when dating?
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I’m a pole dancer (for fun, not for a living), and was genuinely curious how many guys see this as a turn off or not. I’m not having issues dating, mostly just wondering out of pure curiosity haha. I post videos of my dancing on my reddit page and my Instagram, and obvs u have to have minimal clothing on to stick to the pole, so it got me thinking about whether me dancing is hindering my dating life 🤣. I wouldn’t stop doing it anyway, because it’s something I absolutely love, I’m genuinely just curious.
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New to Pole Dancing! How Long Does It Take...
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...to stop embarrassing yourself? Haha, seriously though, how long did it take you to develop some grace and coordination? I want to build up to inversions and climbs and such but right now I can barely pole walk without tripping over my own feet.
- How many days a week do you practice?
- Do you do any related work like floorwork flow classes, foot conditioning, aerial arts?
- How long did it take you to build enough strength for more advanced skills like pole climbing?
I'm not new to fitness in general, and I'm not weak, but boy oh boy is this a brand new game for me. I know every body is different, but I'm having trouble envisioning myself doing anything and I just wonder about other people's experiences.
Top Comment: That strongly depends.. I’m 6-7 years in and still find ways to embarrass myself. Best suggestion, find a balance of practice time, different classes, and learning how to just embrace the discomfort. My studio had a mix of floor based, trick/conditioning classes and freestyle classes... but in all honesty, the best I ever feel is when I look back at old videos and see the growth. Also.. eat the damn protein. Don’t be afraid of getting buffer shoulders... pole takes upper body strength and if you want to never ever risk bigger shoulders pole and aerials would not be the best, not everyone actually puts on a lot of muscle, but it’s a risk. For inverts, it’s taken people anywhere from 1 month, to years. It can depends on so many factors. So start to get comfortable wi to patience and not comparing yourself to others. Also do recovery!!! Foam rollers and epsom salt can be your best friend
Aerial or pole or nothing?
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I am a 25 year old ( F) and I am really fascinated by the aerial arts and pole dancing . I would like to start classes for either aerial hoop or pole but I am scared that maybe is to late to start doing something like this..? I never trained , I have no muscle or flexibility .. is it any point to do start it? And if yes which one will be easier to learn in the begining?
Top Comment: Everyone starts from zero. I started on silks when I was 39, now I'm 49, still doing silks as well as pole and hoop. I would say that pole is a little more accessible, and it's a great place to start building strength while also learning dance and movement. If you can, take a taster class of both and see which one resonates. The aerial studio near my house actually does free intro/taster classes a few times a year!
Pole dancing is trashy and a boring fad for deeply insecure women stuck in patriarchal expectations of femininity.
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People, especially the "pole fitness" crowd won't shut up about how empowering and beneficial pole dancing is. Pole fitness is TOXIC FEMININITY.
And every addict can give you reasons why they use. Pole dancing is trashy, low class, deeply sexualized and birthed from misogyny and patriarchy. There is nothing empowering about it, unless you seek to see women sexualize themselves for visual objectification. Every pole fitness girl I have ever met has recognizable desperation and low self esteem.100% always attracts the self conscious, superficially obsessed. A lot of Barbie dolls trying to feel beautiful and valuable by spinning around a pole spreading their legs.
Top Comment: You know not all poledancers work in strip clubs and not all remove their clothes right?
Do men see pole dancing as a red flag on dating app?
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Hey everyone!
Lately, I’ve (30F) been super into pole dancing. I’m still a beginner but I love it. The environment is super body-positive, friendly, and makes me feel sexy but safe. Like a lot of dancers, I sometimes take pics or record my progress (even though I’m not that skilled yet).
As for outfits, I like wearing pole outfits - not super revealing, but definitely on the sexy side (because that’s how I can grip to the pole)
I’m from another country but will move to the US soon and I’m also looking for a boyfriend. I’m curious: do guys, especially on the West Coast, see pole dance as a red flag? I sometimes post IG stories when I pole dance, but would that make guys see me as less of a serious girlfriend? Should I mention and attach a pole pic on dating profile?
PS: Just to clarify, I have a regular job. Pole dancing is a hobby that I’ve recently gotten super into, and it’s been amazing for my physical health. I also go to the gym, but pole is definitely my biggest hobby right now. At my studio, it’s like 99% women
Top Comment: You do you, but many people will see it and go 2 + 2= 5 and assume you're a stripper or sex worker. Expect to get a lot of fuck boi attention. I don't make the world, I just tell you how it works. Sure, some people will see it for what it is, or not even take it into consideration, but most will misinterpret it.
Flying vs Regular Pole
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Howdy Beautiful people
I am looking for some insight from anyone who has experience with flying pole and regular pole. So my current studio does not have a way for regular pole to be easily installed, ie there is no easy way to mount a permanent pole. But i realized that flying pole may work as an alternative that lets us use our normal aerial rig points.
Whats peoples take on it? Easier or harder then pole, a lot of stuff translates, hate it?
Top Comment: I have like 9 years of standard pole experience and took an aerial pole class for like 6 months at the studio I do lyra at. It was mounted to the same rig points as everything else used in the space. As far as the comparison goes: Most aerial poles are either silicone or wrapped so the grip is much better than on a standard pole. Aerial pole spin is a lot different because there is also an orbit. Some moves are way harder and others way easier because the normal push/pole for standard pole is not there due to the lack of floor mounting. Both have their pros and cons and I personally consider them to just be 2 different apparatus. Definitely worth trying!!
Thoughts on Pole Dancing as fitness?
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EITHER IN THE CLUB OR OUTSIDE OF THE CLUB, I'm talking about strength and shapes, and elegance behind it ALL. What are your thoughts? Is it appreciated and respected OR do you think the club scene of pole dancing gives this type a bad rep?
I come from an athletic background and recently started learning pole dancing. I love it, and it's beautiful, but I'm always timid to post my new tricks on social media in fear of people shaming me.
Top Comment: Pole dancer here: yes, some people are judgmental, some people will shame you for the association between pole dance or “pole fitness” and stripping. A lot of polers have separate social media accounts where they share pole dance stuff because they don’t want it associated with their main social media/concerns over their jobs/etc. So if you want to post your tricks but are concerned over some people’s reactions, that’s a route to consider. I’m seeing a lot of people in the comments here who are not part of the pole community and probably don’t understand the nuances here. So here’s a few points (please note, I have never stripped or worked in a club, so I can’t rightfully speak to an actual stripper’s experiences). Pole dance or “pole fitness” (I put this term in quotes because I personally despise this term and see it used most often in a context of shaming strippers) originated from strip clubs. Chinese or Indian pole dance is a completely different sport, and is not the basis for modern pole dance classes. Many of the people who began teaching pole as a sport in studios were or are strippers. So, even if you aren’t personally stripping, it’s important to respect the origins of pole dancing and not trash SW-ers because of internalized whore-phobia. Over the past years, there have been a lot of issues regarding pole dancers/“pole fitness” people being really nasty to strippers. The #notastripper hashtag on Instagram is a prime example of this. As a reaction to this, there has been a lot of discourse within the pole community on respecting the strippers who gave us this “sport” and not shitting on them to try and sanitize pole to accommodate narrow minded people who see any form of sex work as bad. There are a lot of different “types” of pole dance. There’s people who focus more on the tricks and aerial aspects of pole, and people who focus more on low flow/dance/exotic style pole. There’s also so many ways to combine both of those aspects. Neither is better than another, but even if you only focus on aerial tricks and non-sexy pole, it’s still not right to shame others for what their dance choices. There’s currently an issue happening, where Instagram is updating their terms of service, and basically saying that pole dancing filmed in a strip club is not permissible, and they will be deleting profiles of strippers who post things like this. Obviously, a lot of strippers are very upset over this, and this also has implications for the pole community as a whole, because depending on the way this is enforced, more exotic style routines filmed in a studio can often look extremely similar to a routine done in a strip club. And again, it’s extremely whore phobic to remove strippers videos, but allow “pole fitness” videos of the same tricks to remain up. So, although I’m sure you didn’t have bad intentions, saying stuff like “does the club scene of pole dancing give it a bad rep?” is extremely rude, considering the club scene is the reason we even have pole dancing as a hobby/sport. There is a difference between doing pole dance as a hobby vs as a job, but it’s still important to respect that the hobby came from the job, and to not be disrespectful towards sex workers because you are afraid you might get some negative comments on your hobby. I really recommend connecting with the pole community ( r/poledancing , on Instagram, Facebook groups) if you want to learn more about this as well, it’s a complex topic that’s really hard to completely sum up in one comment/with just one person’s view on the matter.